When I started my journey of awakening and healing I was a teenager. Unsettled with life how it was taught to me and tired of feeling at the mercy of some outside forces - I began a journey to know myself at a deeper level. I started meditation and reading everything I could find on self healing. After some time seeking and implementing new practices I started reviewing myself in a new way. I started to witness myself at a deep level by allowing emotional expression fully into my life.
After I practiced emotional expression for a few months, I started having tremendous insights. I realized that a large part of how I saw the world and how I experienced my interactions with others was based on projection. I also realized that these feelings were actually coming from my suppressed emotional subconscious and just attaching to people and circumstances outside myself mostly to gain my attention. I began to see how I attracted difficult people and circumstances to myself that corresponded to the feelings because my subconscious was desperate for clearing.
For the first time in this life, I realized the implication and importance of taking responsibility for my emotional experience. I saw that the first step to working on my emotional self was Awareness. Which included first: become aware of the feeling, let it come up to my bodies awareness. Next: Understand that the feelings are coming from the suppressed, unconscious reservoir within and give it a very gentle non-judgmental approach. And Finally: Take responsibility for the feeling exactly as it is and give it love and acceptance.
Acceptance does not necessarily mean accepting negative people or circumstances, it only refers to your feelings, as they are. The resistance that blocks full feeling occurs on a mental level. It is necessary to look at all the ways that we resist our experience, and to make the changes to allow safe expression of feelings.
We can use food, drugs, sex, entertainment etc all as diversions from feelings. More subtle forms of emotional avoidance are worrying, controlling, living in the past or future, living according to rigid concepts, judging self and others, even constantly seeking “answers” or talking about the feelings rather than sitting and feeling them. And, of course relationship dependencies are also possible unconscious but often deliberately avoiding the feelings. Any feeling can be appropriate for processing, anxiety, anger, sadness, rejection, heartbreak, humiliation, loneliness, hatred, inadequacy, feeling manipulated, used, hurt, depressed, etc. Allow the feeling to be, allow it to exist on its own.
Try to see if it has a place it your body – just observe with out judgement. Breathe into it.
Watch and experience the feeling. Allow the feeling to come forward fully. Allow yourself to go through it – however that unfolds, but usually with tears and sounds. Let the feelings flow. After you release and start to camp you will feel a "shift" - you will have released the old stuck feeling energy. It is likely you will have to repeat this at other times to completely release the suppressed feeling, and I in some cases with deep trauma it can take a few sessions to clear. In other cases it can be cleared immediately. The closer you process the emotions you are feeling to the experience that triggered you, the easier it will become to stay emotionally balanced.
As you work with truly experiencing all feelings instead of avoiding them you will begin to feel alive again. Blocking of so called negative feelings also blocks positive experience and expression of life
I have found that connecting to your higher self or your over-soul before emotional processing through meditation adds a great deal to the experience. This light is the key to transforming your being into the best version of yourself. The practice also brings in a witness to your emotional process and assistance from spiritual guides ready to assist you in the transition. The experience of the witness grows as one practices.
As you work on yourself, remember to be patient. Once you begin doing the work seriously and effectively, you start to clear the residue of centuries. If you find yourself stuck or in need of support please feel free to reach out . We are glad to help other souls on this path find their way. We are all ultimately connected - as you heal yourself, you heal the world. Be well and be kind. www.sacredspiralpath.com © SacredSpiral Path 2017 Contact us at firstname.lastname@example.org
Dana is an Intuitive Empath, Business Consultant, Emotional and Spiritual Adviser. She has hosted numerous spiritual events and has operated a successful consulting business for more than 8 years. Contact Dana if you are interested in a personal consultation or check out the sacred spiral events page for up-coming workshops and retreats.